Brenda Joyce Cooper passed away peacefully at the Suncoast Hospice Care Center with her family at her bedside. She was 63. A celebration of Brenda’s life will be held on Thursday, January 26, 2017 at 11:00 AM at the Abundant Life Ministries located at 1550 S. Belcher Rd. in Clearwater. Pastor Anthony McDaniel will officiate. The family will receive friends from 9:30 am until the start of the service. Burial will follow at Sylvan Abbey Memorial Park located at 2860 Sunset Point Rd. in Clearwater.
Brenda was born in Hamilton, Ohio on December 17, 1953 to Marvin and Mary (Harris) Golden. She relocated to the Clearwater area from Hamilton in 1990. There, she worked as an administrator for many organizations including various Head Start Programs, Mary Kay Cosmetics, and Cooper Automotive. Brenda attended Abundant Life Ministries where she met her husband Timothy during a bible study. Brenda will be remembered for being full of life, showing her love by being a devoted wife, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, and loyal friend.
She is survived by her husband, Timothy L. Cooper of Clearwater, FL; three sons: John Lyczkowski and his wife, Mickey of Tampa, FL, Shawn Lyczkowski and his wife, Jessica of Palm Harbor, FL, and David Newcomb of Clearwater, FL; a sister, Sandra Black of Dayton, OH; four grandchildren: Ashley Lyczkowski, Scott Lyczkowski, Alijah DeMoss, and Addison Lyczkowski; a great-grandchild, Addison; and her special friends and constant companions, Shelly Pecka of St. Petersburg, FL and Vicki Nadeau of Largo, FL.
The featured picture is of Brenda and Timothy on their wedding day.
Always a smile and a good attitude toward life. She will be missed by family and friends. God Bless
I am so sorry Tim and family. I know she was loved and will be missed. God will take good care of her and your family. Nanette
I’ve known Brenda my entire adult life. She was always one to want to protect me from life’s hardest and roughest times. She was a Sister to me, and was one to always give of herself. She always had nothing but beautiful things to say about anyone she knew. She would clothe you if you needed, made sure you were fed, but mostly made sure in some way shape or form, that you knew just how much Jesus loves you.
She was “Mother Hen” to Vicki Nadeau and myself. One you could go to about ANYTHING, and not feel “weird” about it.
There is so much more I can say, but I’ll leave it at this.
Brenda, I love you more than you can EVER IMAGINE, and want you to know how deeply I will miss you.
Until we see each other again.
Rest my dear Sister.
Tim, she will NEVER be forgotten.
I promise you this.
My deepest condolences to the family. Brenda had been on my mind and heart for quite some time.I think of her often and will always admire her beautiful spirit. She experienced some very hard days but never waivered on her faith. She will be loved and missed by many.
Dear Tim,
I had no idea or I would have driven up. I didn’t see anything about Brenda passing. I am so sorry.
Joey
Tim did very little for Brenda in her last couple of years. He mostly avoided her by staying at work and drinking until late hours. She was left to self medicate and often took too much of her medicine, morphine. She died of COPD, however only 1 Dr. actually diagnosed her with this. Several Dr’s said she did not have it. She did however have a lot of mental health issues and anxiety that went untreated and undiagnosed for the most part. A big reason for this is she went to church, and churches don’t offer help in this regard. So, instead she went to several Dr’s until she could come up with a reason for her “chest pain”. The real reason was Bi-polar disorder mixed with anxiety. She went on to become addicted to pain pills or anxiety meds in one form or another. Morphine was the one that would eventually take her life. Sensing Tim being over with the relationship, she became increasingly depressed. He was more than 10 years her junior, so she knew he wanted to go on and live life. She diligently sought a Hospice status that would allow her to be put to sleep as things got bad. As other health complications began to intensify, she would check in and out of Hospice facilities for over 2 years. Most people that get hospice status die within days or weeks, but she had a ways to go as she didn’t actually have this disease.She would often check in to hospice or a care facility and call it a “hotel” –mostly because she couldn’t stand the small mold filled room Tim had confined her to. Mold that would only make things harder for a person with “COPD”. The house and room were a complete mess and disaster despite friends and family attempting to help her clean or do daily chores. Eventually Hospice increased her dosage to the point where she overdosed and died. T
Tim had to be confronted in order to persuade him to purchase a tombstone for Brenda. He’d made threats that he wouldn’t even do that to her sons. He received $50,000 for her passing. He didn’t have to pay for a burial plot as his parents gave him one close to his home that they would not be using. So Tim went on to put on a new roof at his house and sell it. He painted his shop and bought a small trailer to live in behind the shop. He fired or disowned any of Brenda’s sons that were still around, and gave them $0 from their mothers passing to help them with life that she couldn’t.
It was less than 2 months after Brenda passing when Tim began looking for a new woman. He dated several and ended up in a relationship with one of Brenda’s grandsons friends mother. This was a women who used to bring her son over to Tim and Brenda’s home while they had their grandson living with them. He has recently become engaged to her, less than a year before his wife’s passing. But continues to put on a fake smile for those old church friends they used to know.