Lillian Estelle Diaz
June 5, 1930 – May 19, 2023
It is with deep sorrow that the family of Lillian Estelle Diaz of Clearwater, FL announce
the passing of their beloved mother on May 19 th , 2023, at the age of 92.
Lillian was born on June 5 th , 1930, in Granite Springs, NY, daughter of the late Robert
and Susan M. (Smith) Tompkins. The Great Depression and WWII deeply affected
Lillian’s formative years. She learned from her parents and siblings the importance of
spirituality, love of family, and resiliency during challenging times. Lillian attended
grade school at a one room schoolhouse in Granite Springs. She was one of the first
graduates from Somers High School, and she attended SUNY Plattsburgh.
Lillian married Edward A. MacDonald, and had two children, Emily Marta, and
Timothy. The marriage ended in divorce and Lillian became a single parent. She later
married Spencer B. Stewart and had 3 children, Dolores, Spencer, and Mary. Her
husband Spencer, later died of cancer in 1968 and she became a widow and single
parent of 5 children. In 1973, Lillian married Ralph M. Diaz, and became a stepmom to
Ralph’s children, Ralph Jr., and Warren. Lillian had a long and happy life with Ralph,
until his passing in 2007.
Lillian worked her entire life in various banking, bookkeeping, and retail service
positions to provide and care for her family. Lillian was a resilient powerhouse, who
would start her day praising the Lord and work non-stop until her day was done. Her
children affectionately called her ‘The Energizer Bunny.’
Lillian had many interests beginning with her faith in God. She was a long-standing
member of the Church of the Good Shepard in Granite Springs NY, and the Church of
the Good Samaritan, Clearwater FL. Lillian loved to get her hands in the dirt and
garden. She would tell us that this was her way of communing with God. She loved to
cook and bake for her family and had an extensive collection of recipes. We all have fond
memories of her rice and beans, banana bread, and peanut butter cookies. She was
highly creative and taught us how to sew, knit, and crochet. With her loving hands she
made each of us a handcrafted blanket that we can wrap around us and still feel her
love. Mom loved listening to music. Turn the music on and her foot would begin
tapping, and her hands would rise in praise for the gift the performer bestowed upon
her. Lillian loved solving all kinds of puzzles (words, crossword, jigsaw). She loved a
good game of Pinochle, and she was extremely competitive at board games (Yahtzee,
Scrabble, Monopoly, Checkers and Dominos). She was an avid reader. Lillian also
participated in team bowling and searching for the perfect thrift shop find (especially
teddy bears).
Most important to Lillian was her family, which extended to all she encountered. She
had an infinite capacity to love, and she had a way of making you feel like you were the
most important person in the world. She took her family and friends under her wings
and taught them how to love unconditionally. It is our hope to continue her legacy of
love.
Lillian is predeceased by her husbands, Edward A. MacDonald, Spencer B. Stewart, and
Ralph M. Diaz, her loving sisters, Jesse E. Temple (Marshall), Susan M. Perry (Robert),
Anne M. Smith (Frank), Marjorie A. Pease (Robert), her brother-in-law (Albert C.
Whittaker), her stepson, Ralph Diaz (Wei), her great-grandchild Spencer Finn Johnson,
and her son-in-law James A. Trefren.
Lillian is survived by her loving children, Emily Marta Brooks (David), Timothy Stewart
(Nancy), Dolores A. Trefren, Spencer B. Stewart (Robin), Mary E. Stewart, Warren C.
Diaz (Jeanne, Tobi, Gwen).
Lillian is survived by her loving sister Roberta L. Whittaker, brother, Robert L.
Tompkins Jr. (Joan), sister-in-law Ethel Bromley (Jay), and her loving nieces and
nephews.
Lillian loved and adored her 10 grandchildren (David, Michael, Jessica, Robert, Carly,
Jay, Spencer Aaron, Megan, Madison, Jonathan) and 13 great-grandchildren (Clayton,
Trenton, Cohen, Audrey, Spencer Hayden, Zachary, Lillian Lee, Mia, Preston, Rafael,
Joshua, Alyx, Sophie).
The family of Lillian Estelle Diaz is grateful for the loving care provided by the
AccentCare Hospice Center of Pinellas County. We wish to extend our special thanks to
chaplains Gina and Ray, nurses Corinne and Jaymie, music therapist, Gloria, and the
entire support team.
In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to Seasons Hospice Foundation, 8537
Solution Center, IL 60677, www.seasonsfoundation.org/donate.
We ask family and friends to join us at The Veteran’s Funeral Services, 830 N. Belcher
Rd., Clearwater, FL 33765 for a memorial service on June 23rd, 2023 at 11AM.
Visitation will begin at 10AM.
Interment will be at Bay Pines National Cemetery, 10000 Bay Pines Blvd N, St.
Petersburg, FL 33708. Plot# Sec J Site 497.
I loved my aunt so much. my prayers are with my cousins at this difficult time Rest in peace aunt lily
My condolences to all who loved her! I didn’t know your mom, but I knew Dolores, Spencer, and Mary from school. What a wonderful woman she was! May she rest in God’s eternal peace. 💕🙏
Aunt Lily was one of the sweetest people in the world. We were fortunate to visit her in Florida in 2018, and she was sooooo happy just to sit on the couch and hold all our hands, as we took turns taking pictures. She always had a smile to share, and loved seeing our daughters, Sophie & Phoebe that day, who were 15 and 18 at the time. We were so hoping that we would see her again next year on a planned trip to Florida… and she will be missed so much! Praying for all the family during this difficult time. Thinking of you all.